Sibling Rivalry

Sibling rivalry is normal among children. It can be a frequent occurrence or an occasional fight. How often and how severe the rivalry can depend on the age difference, the age of each child, and how the parents handle their own conflicts.

Minimizing Sibling Rivalry:

  • Treat each child as an individual with unique traits.
    Give each child their own special time alone with you.
  • Each time your children get along that behavior should be recognized and praised.
  • Parents should be aware of how they manage conflicts in the families. Children will notice that and will learn from what they see.
  • Encourage your child to find activities and interests that they can do alone, separate from their siblings.

When Sibling Rivalry Occurs:

  • Teach the child new strategies to cope with the situation besides fighting.
  • Encourage the children to talk over the problem and find their own solutions, if possible.
  • Let your children know exactly what you mean by "Get Along" - Be specific.
  • Allow children to try and resolve the problem themselves before stepping in.
  • Intervene when fights become physical.
  • Use time-out techniques, and use it for all siblings that are involved in the fight.
  • Avoid putting children in situations that will promote a rivalry and avoid comparing your children.